Valentine’s Day instills a sense that love is in the air, but what is the true feeling of love and how does one explain it? We all desperately search for and desire love, believing it will make our lives more satisfying and complete. We all understand the meaning of true love, but do we each feel the same when it hits our heart and soul. I once read that love is friendship caught on fire, it takes root and grows one day at a time.
I have often questioned what love is and if it has a different meaning for each person experiencing it. I have engaged in lengthy conversations with friends about the meaning of love and each seems to vary in their belief, meaning, and understanding of true love. Many described love as the feeling you get when you first set eyes on another and the glow of happiness that overwhelms you. From there, they suggest the rest is history. Is that real love and can it really last?
We have all experienced the feeling of sweaty palms, pounding heart, and the lump in our throat when that special person enters the room. Is it love or like? How about the feeling of not being able to take your eyes or hands off someone, is that love or lust? Is it love or luck if you are with a person who you only want to show off as you stroll down the street? What is love?
Would you consider it love or loneliness when you simply want someone just because you know he/she will always be there? Would you remain in a relationship that lacks emotion because you feel it is the right thing to do. Is that love or loyalty? Would you not leave the one you think you love to avoid hurting their feelings? Is that love or pity? Do you openly tell your partner that you only think and dream of them? It that love or a lie? What is love?
One theory of Love has three components passion, intimacy, and commitment. Passion is the physical arousal and feeling of being attracted to someone. Intimacy develops over time through communication and sharing. Intimacy is what makes you want to be emotionally supportive and share your life with another. It presents as a feeling of intense connectedness. Commitment is the promise to continue strengthening and growing the feeling of love and maintaining the relationship. Commitment is the desire to be in a serious relationship and persevere no matter how challenging the tough times may be.
This is only one theory of love, but it expresses three important factors of what truly being in love involves. There is a delicate balance, individual to each of us, for maintain a feeling of true love. If you plan to spend the rest of your life with someone what is the feeling you want to have each time you see that person enter the room. Life is not perfect and presents many challenges, but what is the feeling of love that will make you feel whole?
I believe love is the quiet understanding you have with another and the mature acceptance of their imperfections. Love gives you strength and grows bigger than you. I believe love is the feeling of warmth that comes over you when you think of your partner whether they are near or far. Love is trust and the maturation of a friendship.
When you are truly in love, you should feel calm and secure, unthreatened and relaxed. Real true love will fill you with a sense of being whole and content. It completes the circle of life. Love lifts your spirit making you feel optimistic and instills peace of mind.
Dr. Dionne Kress is a Leadership Development Professional, Business, and Executive Coach. She helps businesses, entrepreneurs, and professionals in leadership roles define and accomplish personal and professional goals. As a Coach, Dr. Kress encourages professionals to explore challenges, successes, general obstacles, and transitions in their personal life, relationships, and profession leading to more effective leadership skills.
Dr. Kress has a Doctorate in Management with a focus in Organizational Leadership. She conducted her doctoral research in the areas of coaching, self-awareness, and leadership effectiveness. Her research results were significant, demonstrating how a coaching experience can positively influence an individual’s level of self-awareness and leadership effectiveness, personally and professionally.
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Dr. Kress is currently an adjunct Professor at Medaille College in the Accelerated Learning program. She teaches in both the Masters of Organizational Leadership and Masters of Business Administration programs. Additionally, Dr. Kress is an adjunct Professor at Genesee Community College, where she teaches both Business and Management classes at the Associates level.
As a leadership professional and Coach Dr. Kress’ experiences include being a keynote speaker for the 2nd Annual Women’s Weekend in Ellicottville, New York. Dr. Kress was the motivational keynote speaker for the March of Dimes kick-off campaign in 2006. She has facilitated leadership retreats focused upon leadership development; strengths based leadership, team building, and strategic planning. She has worked with both small and large businesses facilitating a process of change, improving business success, as well as individual leadership performance.
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Music from Australia and New Zealand in the year 1978: JPY’s promo-video for the hit single ‘Love Is In The Air’ (May, 1978), taken from the 1978 album ‘Love Is In The Air’. Note: Written and produced by the legendary George Young (big brother of Angus and Malcolm Young of AC/DC and ex-Easybeats/Flash & The Pan) and Harry Vanda (ex-Easybeats/Flash ‘n’ The Pan), ‘Love Is In The Air’ became JPY’s biggest hit. In spite of John Paul Young being on the Alberts Production label with AC/DC and having hits written and produced by George Young (big brother of Angus and Malcolm of AC/DC), JPY is not blood related to the Young brothers whatsoever. Trivia: This film-clip was shot by Dave Westway for an Australian music show titled ‘Funky Road’. Artist(s) Origin: Glasgow, Scotland, United Kingdom (relocated to Sydney, NSW, Australia) Produced By: George Young — Harry Vanda Label: Alberts Production Chart Position: # 3 (Australia) — # 2 (South Africa) — # 5 (United Kingdom) — # 1 (United States – Adult) — # 7 (United States – Hot) — # 3 (Austria) — # 3 (Germany) — # 9 (Netherlands) — # 2 (Norway) — # 2 (Sweden) Release Date: May, 1978 Artist(s) links: en.wikipedia.org John_Paul_Young www.nostalgiacentral.com music/jpy.htm www.milesago.com JPY.htm ————————————– NZOZ NZOZ1978 1978 Australia Late Seventies 1970′s 1970s 70′s 70s External Tags: George Young, Harry Vanda, Flash ‘n’ The Pan, The Easybeats Musical Terms: Disco, Romantic, AM, Pop, Teen, Love …